DIVORCE COUNSELLING ARTICLE.

Going through a divorce can be a harrowing experience, at the best of times, often leaving one feeling shell shocked, alone, relieved, scared or simply unsure of what the new future might hold......

Invariably many couples may need to live under the same roof, or find themselves lodging with friends and relatives, whilst the divorce works to its final conclusion. This lenthy period of uncertainty and anticipation, together with strained relating patterns, can excacerbate an already difficult time. With this in mind, weekly or fortnightly counselling may be a helpful source of emotional support.

Pre-divorce counselling - is most helpful, particularly if a client feels unsure of their possible course of action. The process of counselling allows a client to candidly express their thoughts, feelings and intentions, in a non-judgmental environment. To have their thoughts reflected back, without fear of being judged can invariably take the pressure off. Therapy often facilitates a client to gain clarity, allowing them to follow their own thoughts and instinctual process.  It may become more apparent as to how to forge forward, easing the burdenn of keeping difficult thoughts internalized.

Emotional support throughout the divorce period - Often clients wish they had been insightful enough to recognise the benefits of counselling during a divorce process.

Having this additional emotional support network available at such a turning point in their lives, may enable them to feel more supported and possibly empowered, facilitationg a client to draw upon their strengths and inner resources, at such an emotionally stretching time.

Post-divorce counselling - This can occur at any time after the divorce has been finalised.  It is recognised that emotions can run high, post divorce, possibly due to holding it all together.  It is often the shock of the finality that can stir up those hidden emotions, bringing them to the fore. It may be a question of possibly trying to establish oneself, or to regain one's identity. Possibly you may feel lonely, relieved, angry, sad, scared, or simply uncertain of the way forward. Whatever the reason, it is one way of gaining confidential and non-judgmental emotional support.

Or possibly the divorce has been fairly amicable, and yet there is a certain need for emotional closure, in order to move on.  It can encourage one to feel less preoccupied with the past and more focused on the present, in order to embrace the new challenges ahead.